Comforting Couples Heading Into a Divorce: Smiles All Around
It's my job to help work together with one or both of the parents to create a positive outcome for everyone involved.
Letting Go Of Being Happy
Why would someone attempt to mess with the relationship between her kids and their father? Still? 13 years later?
A Pervasive Divorce Bias That Has to Change
If two parents want to co-parent as friends, want to share expenses as co-parents, and want what's best for their kids, WE HAVE GOT TO CHANGE THE SYSTEM.
Nothing Can Prepare You For the Loss of Divorce
I would have NEVER gone for more than the 50/50 shared parenting we agreed to when we began the collaborative divorce discussions.
Nostalgia Can Be a Toxic Impulse
Don't get caught up in nostalgia that doesn't inform or help you. When you find you're moping in the sadness of nostalgic regret, change the channel.
In Moments of Great Stress What Are Your Comforts?
What makes your life worth living? How can you define the parts of your life you'd like to lean into more as you get more time?
Divorce with Kids: The Golden Rule – It’s About Time Not Money
If you put your kids first you may need to fight to get what you want. And by putting your kids first, sometimes you may have to fight their mom. But to be the best dad you can be, you have to be there, you have to spend time with your kids. All of that time that was taken away is now water under the bridge, but today it's much more clear for me. I take every offer to have the kids an extra night or to support my ex when she has to work late.
The Blurry Lines Between Divorced Parents: Entitlement & Narcissism
Not a percentage of salary earned. No, she believed, still believes, that the child support is her entitlement. This is no longer a relationship it's just a business contract. I am no longer a person to her, I'm a debtor. I'm the problem. I'm the reason she's unhappy.