THE SWIPE! How Online Dating is Numbing Us Down
I learn something new and vital each time I'm in a long-term relationship.
I learn something new and vital each time I'm in a long-term relationship.
There are plenty of single parents who use their kids to get out of almost every obligation. Even obligations to themselves, for say... exercise, dating, taking responsibility for their own actions. And I have been the dad who apologized for checking his phone when a text dinged while on a date.
How could I construct a partnership, from the second date onward, with intention, transparency, and hope?
Know what you want. Know what you offer. Don't oversell. And for fks sake: DO NOT SETTLE.
I can have many women friends and not seek "relationships" with any of them.
The rest is negotiation, navigation, and nurture. We've both got work ahead of us. We are always in a state of becoming. But today, I have my lifetime cheerleader beside me. And I'm always ready joyfully embrace her in all of her flaws and misdirections. We've all got them.
I hope you meet a lot of nice people out there. But don't be fooled by their looks, their profile statements, or their fluent email banter. Go for the face-to-face meeting with as little hassle and energy as possible. If it becomes difficult to land the date, for whatever reason, move on. If they wanted to meet they would also be trying to make it happen, not giving excuses.
There are plenty of fit and fantastic-looking people using online dating. 99% of them will not give you the time of day. That's okay. You only need ONE YES to change your life.