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I Wish You Well, and Absolutely Nothing Else: How To Forgive a Co-parent

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:October 16, 2019
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Divorce Married Life Money Parenting Self-care Single-Dad

I am responsible for my actions alone. And my actions as a divorced dad have been 100% honest, 100% open, and 100% mom/kid-friendly. Her actions... Not so much.

My Love Message: No Worries, Just Desires

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:October 10, 2019
Post category:Co-Parenting Dating Depression Divorce Drinking Health and Fitness Love Married Life Parenting Relationships Self-care Sex Single-Dad Spirituality

And as we ask for and receive the love we need we are also going to have disappointments. My response in life, now, is "No worries, just desires." If my desires start getting squelched or compromised due to continual misses, then it is up to me to speak up.

Announcing the Little Book of The Third Glass

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:October 6, 2019
Post category:Depression Drinking Health and Fitness Joy Relationships Self-care Spirituality Third Glass Series

Drink if you want to. Make sure you are aware of your motivations when you begin to fix the third cocktail. In my experience, that Third Glass came to represent a turning away from me and away from intimacy. I would choose to drink with her from time to time, but I could not follow her into the nightly oblivion. I wanted a close relationship.

Next-Level Parenting: Being Awesome Even in Divorce

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:October 6, 2019
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Depression Divorce Health and Fitness Joy Love Married Life Money Parenting Relationships Self-care Single-Dad Spirituality

I wish I could've had more time with my kids. I wish my then-wife had agreed to 50/50 shared parenting. I wish my ex-wife would be a more collaborative parent. But even as I wish about these things, even as I can feel regret about the lost time, I am HAPPIER NOW THAN I HAVE EVER BEEN IN MY LIFE.

Asking for Support is Hard for Most of Us: That’s Okay, Do It Anyway

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:October 4, 2019
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Depression Divorce Drinking Health and Fitness Joy Love Money Parenting Relationships Self-care Single-Dad Spirituality

My role is to help you identify what's stressing you out, work on lessening that stress, and begin to focus on what's good for you. And as important, what's good for your kids. And here is a simple list of things we're going to work on together.

The Four Simple Rules for Parents Getting Divorced

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:October 3, 2019
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Depression Divorce Drinking Health and Fitness Joy Love Money Parenting Self-care Single-Dad

Also, as the man in the divorce, you have an opportunity to lead the process with grace and empathy. You cannot control how your ex behaves, the only thing you can control is your own response to the challenges ahead.

Men and Divorce with Children: My 9-year Retrospective

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:October 3, 2019
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Married Life Money Parenting Relationships Self-care Single-Dad

I suppose a pound of flesh is tasty when it is grilled over a flame of resentment and anger. She is acting out of spite and vitriol at this point. Again, she got what she wanted and she still came after me with the AG's office.

Letting Go of Dreams Update – Celebrating The Whole Parent Year Six

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:October 2, 2019
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Dating Depression Divorce Joy Love Married Life Parenting Relationships Self-care Single-Dad Spirituality

Divorce is not something you just "get over." And with kids, you never really get over it. I am learning to continuously forgive and forge ahead with my own life as a single dad.