About Becoming a Whole Parent Again, After Divorce

Becoming The Whole Parent, author, John McElhenneyHi. Thanks for stopping by. I’m on this journey and I’d like to bring you along.

My unwavering and immutable mission:

1. 100% positive
2. Kids first
3. Honest feelings

I have been a single-parent for four (and a half) years now, and I am finally getting the hang of it. There are plenty more bumps in the road, but I’m at peace with the life-changing event, and the now-I-can-see-this-is-better reflection of those past four years. My goal is to uncover the WINS and work to remove the MISSES and share those stories so that others who follow this difficult journey will have some illumination, from a previous sojourner.

My hope is to write the dad side of this story and gather contributing single-mom writers to tell the other half. My mantra will always be: lead with love and you will be heading in the right direction.

In the 90’s I was the Creative Director and Contributing Editor of MAN! Magazine. That’s where I learned to open my heart to the bursting point and work to stretch even further. Being great parents is a stretch goal for all of us. In these pages I will bring a hopeful light to bear on hard subjects, and together we (you, me, and my family) will find loving solutions to the new wrinkle of single-parenting. As if, parenting weren’t hard enough.

I wish you peace and strength.

John McElhenney

You can find my other networks here: uber.la (social media consulting) and linkedin (business networking). Or feel free to email me here john.mcelhenney (at) gmail (dot) com
Author John McElhenney

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published in huffpo parents

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Also published in the GMP


& I’d really love your follow on the Huffington Post: John McElhenney, single dad, writer

The official bio: John McElhenney is a single dad who lives and writes in Austin, Texas. He has published several books of poetry and a whimsical look at social media, The Twitter Way. He makes his living writing social media strategies for small businesses, and makes his heart smile playing tennis and music.

Repurposing WHOLE PARENT Content: If you are going to excerpt part of an article for you divorce law site, please use proper attribution and include a link back to the source article. Don’t make it look like you wrote my story, that’s bad form, and it doesn’t do either of us any favors. I’m happy if my material helps you bolster and educate your clients about this awful and transformative divorce process, but please… Do the right thing. Give the story an author, and a link back here. If you do that we’re going to get along fabulously. Thanks.

I have listed my site as Creative Commons resource, so I’m into you sharing, but you must attribute the work.

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11 thoughts on “About Becoming a Whole Parent Again, After Divorce

  1. Nice site…. I’ve been a single dad for 5 years and like you think I have the hang of it. That makes the dating thing really interesting, I liked your blog about it.

    Since I’ve been looking there does seem so much more focussed on single mums than dads. We are a little below the radar…….

    1. Thanks Roger. I think the BlogHer team and mommy blogger brigades got there first, but there’s no reason the “feeling men” amongst us can’t pick up the slack and jump headfirst into the fray. Thanks for your comment.

  2. I just read your Huffington Post blog, Durable Love: Forgiving Your Ex and I really appreciated what you wrote. I was in a similar position except my ex cheated on me, even though I was ready to forgive and move on but when that was rejected came a tough road away from anger, hate and betrayal to the first steps of healing, maybe someday forgiveness. Thank you there is a light.

  3. Thank you John for your posts. I want to share them with my soon to be ex. Your parenting advice can really help our kids!

  4. Hello John,

    I love your positive attitude. You are an incredible role model for everyone after a divorce.
    Helping people get along after divorce is my passion.

  5. I wanted to share with you how much I appreciate your honesty in life just as it right now. It has influenced me and my life through divorce. Given me hope and kept me thinking in the positive. Even in the darkest times, I will read something you have written that reminds me to stay positive and all will end up fine. (or the way it was meant to and that is fine too)
    Thank you! Good luck! I wish you all the best:)

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