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Love is an Inside Job: Healing Ourselves to Love Fully

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Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:September 2, 2021
Post category:Dating Health and Fitness Joy Love relationship building Relationships Self-care Sex Single-Dad

We work the online dating sites and apps, and we seek some more, but we might be seeking someone to fix what's broken inside of us. And guess what? That never goes well.

Everything is Beautiful and Painful: Top Three Relationship Rules

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:August 30, 2021
Post category:Anger burn Co-Parenting Depression Divorce Drinking Health and Fitness humans of divorce Married Life Parenting relationship building Relationships Self-care Single-Dad Spirituality

When I was younger and my parents began to struggle with a long protracted divorce, I begged for Jesus/God to help them stay together. I prayed all the time for my dad to stop killing himself with alcohol and cigarettes.

Online Dating Update: Breathe It All In, Love It All Out

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:March 7, 2021
Post category:Dating Health and Fitness Joy Love mindfulness relationship building Relationships Self-care Sex Single-Dad Spirituality

When you are involved in something vigorous, your attention and judgment are often heightened. You are more likely to get a true read on a partner while you are playing tennis, for example.

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setting sail for the relationship of our dreams

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:February 18, 2021
Post category:Dating Joy Love Poetry relationship building Relationships Self-care Single-Dad Spirituality

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Online Dating Refresh: Can We Start Over?

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:February 9, 2021
Post category:Dating Divorce Health and Fitness humans of divorce Joy Love relationship building Relationships Self-care Sex Single-Dad Spirituality

I quickly and clearly expressed my change of plans and released them back into the stream of possibilities. Get clear on your dating goals. And if you need someone to talk to about all of this crazy mess, I'm here.

Making Your Partner a Priority; Where Do You Want to Be?

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:January 10, 2021
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Dating Depression Divorce humans of divorce Joy Love Married Life relationship building Relationships Self-care Sex Single-Dad

If you find yourself thinking or saying, I'd be happy if you'd just... You need to get over the request and focus on yourself. If NOTHING CHANGES, would you be able to stay in this relationship? If the answer is no, you've got work todo.

What if Love Is Bigger Than Your Pain? Healing w/in a Big Love

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:February 5, 2020
Post category:Dating Joy Love relationship building Relationships Self-care Single-Dad Spirituality

Like a broken arm that heals stronger than before it was broken, what if your big love can come back with more resilience, more compassion, more flexibility when things go dark? That's the plan.

There She Goes Again: Limitless Desire for a New Partner

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:February 2, 2020
Post category:Dating Joy Love relationship building Relationships Self-care Sex Single-Dad Spirituality

But, with each of my last three relationships, I learned some fundamental truths about myself in a relationship. I am not surprised that dating has little or no allure. I had such a wonderful partner. I learned what if felt like to be loved with abandon and openness. And I learned how far I could go before I broke down over the disconnections that continued to happen.