Married Life Archives

When Divorce Negotiations Start at 70 – 30 Custody, the Kids Lose

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:February 21, 2023
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Depression Divorce Health and Fitness humans of divorce Joy Love Married Life Money Parenting Self-care Single-Dad

When we started down the road of negotiating a cooperative divorce (because it's all about the children) our divorce and parenting plan counselor also suggested 70-30.

The Lies My Wife Told and Continued During Our Parenting Struggles

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:February 7, 2023
Post category:Co-Parenting Dating Divorce humans of divorce Married Life Parenting Relationships Self-care

If she doesn't' respond to my daughter, why would I think she's going to respond or even be friendly to me? I don't think about it much, anymore. It's so much more obvious as we now enter the 10th year of our co-parenting journey, that she really is a bit self-centered.

An Imbalance of Joyful Parenting: Moms and Dads Are Different

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:February 5, 2023
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Divorce humans of divorce Joy Married Life Parenting Single-Dad

The imbalanced schedule they were assigned by my wife's actions, meant that I was going to be a marginal character in their lives.

Loving You Every Day of Your Life: A Father’s Journey Thru Divorce

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:January 22, 2023
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Depression Divorce humans of divorce Married Life Money Parenting Single-Dad

If you don't do the work, you may remain stuck in the past. You may wrestle with the depression and demons of your parent's transgressions and lack of support.

Sex Without Desire Is More Like Porn Than Lovemaking

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:January 3, 2023
Post category:Dating Love Married Life Relationships Self-care Sex

This might have spelled the end more clearly than I understood. She didn't want sex. She fought about sex. She complained about how I asked for sex. She always got off when we had sex, but she had started not-caring about the LOVE in the experience. And that was a deal killer, both in the moment and in our marriage.