Understanding Attraction: Do, Be, Don’t
Find what you like and what she doesn't like. Find new things you can both explore together. And find how your needs, desires, and futures align.
Find what you like and what she doesn't like. Find new things you can both explore together. And find how your needs, desires, and futures align.
But I am also a learning individual. I can adapt and make changes in my plans and trajectories. So while I was thinking I had lost orbit and was shooting away for some new destination. I may have been only slowing to the gravitational pull of this amazing lady, and learning what her fears and passions were as well.
What would happen if a woman came along who was within my attractive range and was interested in a relationship? I guess I would get the opportunity to feel the pressure that I occasionally put on "dates." I'm not sure what's ahead, but I'm interested in finding out how I learn and grow in my next relationship, with a partner who wants a relationship.
I'm sensing some sort of "shoe ready to drop" but it's all in my mind at this point. It's like PTSD from my past relationships. I don't really recognize when I meet a healthy partner.
My goal, as a good dad, is to be available emotionally and physically to my kids all the time. They know where I stand. I've never bad-mouthed their mom. And as they continue to grow and mature into adults, I'm back to having an equal opportunity to be with them.
If my friend is staying in the "dating" and "fooling around" mode, he's not going to gain any long-term insights.
When you aspire too much for someone too beautiful you might be getting off track for what’s important in your life.
Crave them when they are not with you. Enjoy and savor them when they are with you. And feel the complete fullness of life when you have been satiated by them.