I believe we cannot heal from our divorce/relationship trauma without getting back into the ring and giving it another go. Only IN RELATIONSHIP can we learn how to be healthy in a relationship.
So let's make a pact, in our next round of dating "work" I want to commit to pursuing only the clear YES women. Everything else is a distraction. If I am interested in a relationship, that's going to take time, patience, perspective, and the right YES woman.
You've gotta get out there to get over yourself. It's in the relating to a real woman in a real setting that things might become interesting.
I say it all the time, I'm not much into dating. I'd rather have a relationship. The idea of a new woman *is* exciting, however, the steps to uncover and…