Having an orgasm for me, during sex, is a function of tuning into my partner's directions and hints and basking in the experience of feeling every inch of their body.
If we can dial up our feedback look to higher levels of integration and connection, we can move deeper into trust and the exploration that follows.
When sex enters a relationship everything changes and your thinking is going to be challenged for 6 months to a year. Don't trust your thoughts during this period. Don't make any big decisions together. If you get to two red flags, again, BOLT.
Be good to yourself. Love yourself and your partner (if you have one) as best you can. Gain mindfulness in all aspects of your life. And get into the FLOW of your life and of your relationship.