When Divorce Negotiations Start at 70 – 30 Custody, the Kids Lose

When we started down the road of negotiating a cooperative divorce (because it's all about the children) our divorce and parenting plan counselor also suggested 70-30.

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Why Some Fathers Give Up After Divorce

Yes, kids are expensive, but they should be equally shared as an expense and as a joy. This 70/30 split is bullshit. It's demeaning to fathers. And it's based on a parenting concept from the 50's. Sure it makes it easier on the courts if everyone just goes with the plan. But don't. If you want the time with your kids, fight for it.

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Getting My Divorced Dad Weekend with My Kids: Men’s Rights in Divorce

My ex-wife screwed me in the divorce and she and the therapist that setup our 70/30 parenting plan knew it. They were not basing their plans on science, but on "what's best for the kids" mythology that has been perpetuated since my parents got a divorce 49 years ago.

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All the White Horses Have Already Been Taken: Crisis in Single Parenting

I hope that I am not the cold and distant father that I had. I hope that I have done a better job of staying close even under trying circumstances.

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