The Emotional Cost of Divorce is High for Everyone
Namasté to my ex-wife and her husband. And congratulations, I guess you got what you wanted when you asked for a divorce. You won.
The Good Dad’s Divorce: Being Asked to Leave Everything Behind
We need our dads to show up for us, as well as our moms. And when the dad is removed from a family, with the SPO, the balance is shifted dramatically in favor of the "mom as the emotional center" of everyone's lives.
It’s a Beautiful Day, and I’m Broke and a Working Deadbeat Dad
She is motivated by money. She divorced me when my earning power seemed unable to support her stay-at-home mom fantasy. I've paid my wife. I've paid her over 50% of…
Gratitude Is Not Always Easy: Child Support Should Be Shared, Not Enforced
I should be feeling relief and happiness at getting caught up on my child support payments to my ex-wife (err, I mean my kids.). I should be grateful at the…
I Am a Dad’s Rights Advocate: DADI (Dads Against Divorce Inequality)
What I can do, is fight a bit for what I think is right. I can let the AG's office thrash at me a bit longer. I can begin paying my monthly obligations like clockwork to keep their enforcement tools from dropping all my bank accounts to zero. Today, I can begin fighting back for future fathers. And, today, I can work towards a tiny balance of power surrounding the child support debt I owe.
If Divorce was a Game I Might Have Played to Win
If a divorce was a game would you be so competitive with your spouse to WIN? Are there limits to which you would not stoop? Like damaging their livelihood? Burdening…
Timing, Money, and Parenting Within the Standard Possession Order
If I had it to do all over again, I'd probably argue with the counselor and my ex-wife and negotiate something a bit more even. You will be advised not to do this. "It's easier for everyone if you just accept this plan, it's been working for families for years."
Finding Balance In the Inequitable Life After Divorce
Income inequity is a problem. Even if the "American Dream" path is pursued, like in my marriage, where I worked a string of ascending corporate jobs in an effort to…
