Tough Love: How Do You Reach a Kid Who’s Avoiding You?

One of my kids is thrilled to stay in touch with me. We FaceTime most days. I offer them support and advice. My other kid only reaches out, or even responds to my texts, when they want money.

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Parenting Lesson: Always Consider Lightening Your Kid’s Load

The complications in a teenaged boy's life are many. Dad's love should not be another complication. I am here for him. And I can chill out a bit on my outreach. He knows I'm here. I have always been here.

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Cherry PopTarts and Love (fathers & daughters in divorce)

That's another part I needed to learn: Listening to what MY body needs. And what it needs right now is a walk, not another cup of coffee. I love PopTarts, but PopTarts don't love me back.

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Timing, Money, and Parenting Within the Standard Possession Order

If I had it to do all over again, I'd probably argue with the counselor and my ex-wife and negotiate something a bit more even. You will be advised not to do this. "It's easier for everyone if you just accept this plan, it's been working for families for years."

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