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Divorce with Kids: The Golden Rule – It’s About Time Not Money

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:October 3, 2023
Post category:Anger burn Co-Parenting Depression Divorce humans of divorce Married Life Money Parenting Relationships Self-care Single-Dad

If you put your kids first you may need to fight to get what you want. And by putting your kids first, sometimes you may have to fight their mom. But to be the best dad you can be, you have to be there, you have to spend time with your kids. All of that time that was taken away is now water under the bridge, but today it's much more clear for me. I take every offer to have the kids an extra night or to support my ex when she has to work late.

Burning Down the House of Love and Hope

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:March 2, 2022
Post category:Anger burn Co-Parenting Depression Divorce Health and Fitness humans of divorce Love Married Life Money Parenting Relationships Self-care Single-Dad Spirituality

We can hold on, we can fight/struggle/counsel to make things work. We can sacrifice so many aspects of our lives to try and keep the marriage together. And in this sublimation, we can become separated from our own inner truth, our own listening and responding heart, as we try and compromise and grow and hope for the eventual LOVE we believe will heal us.

The Long Retelling of My Divorce

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:October 13, 2018
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Depression Divorce Health and Fitness Married Life Parenting Relationships Self-care

I did learn to love full-on in this marriage. I learned to put my whole soul into the project and come back with the joy of being a parent, and being in love, and being married. This total commitment is part of what blindsided me in the divorce.