Patience, Mindfulness, and the Slow Road to a Healthy Relationship

My movie is undergoing a serious rewrite at the moment. Scenes are being deleted, edited, and new actors are being sought out for both lead and supporting roles. Today, on this amazingly beautiful day (from snow last night to tennis in shorts this afternoon) I'm going to loaf for a bit.

Continue ReadingPatience, Mindfulness, and the Slow Road to a Healthy Relationship

There She Goes Again: Limitless Desire for a New Partner

But, with each of my last three relationships, I learned some fundamental truths about myself in a relationship. I am not surprised that dating has little or no allure. I had such a wonderful partner. I learned what if felt like to be loved with abandon and openness. And I learned how far I could go before I broke down over the disconnections that continued to happen.

Continue ReadingThere She Goes Again: Limitless Desire for a New Partner

Additional Online Dating Data Indicates: It’s a Shitshow Out There

What I do know for me, is that online dating has produced exactly two relationships. And, both relationships were beneficial and educational. But my belief is that online dating is a pretty lazy way to go about seeking a partner.

Continue ReadingAdditional Online Dating Data Indicates: It’s a Shitshow Out There

You’re a Hard Act to Follow: Breakups, Divorces, & Learning to Move On

Even before the relationship began to physically disintegrate, we were feeling a bit disconnected. How did we lose what was once so hot and pure? How did the dream die, even as we were trying to be good partners and good stewards of our lover's heart?

Continue ReadingYou’re a Hard Act to Follow: Breakups, Divorces, & Learning to Move On