Total System Failure: Rebooting My Life, Again
I have come out of lightspeed and back to the known universe. There are some good things about this and some things that feel disappointing. As the hyperspace experience of…
The Odyssey of the Single Father: Kids Change Everything
I lost all of the arguments about staying in the marriage, about divorcing with 50/50 custody, about keeping our family together. A radical transformation happens in your relationship the minute…
When Hopelessness Enters the Equation
I don't want to be alone. I knew this most deeply when my marriage was breaking up and I was losing not only my best friend and wife, but my…
What I Imagined About the Coming Divorce: The Loss Was Worse
Today, as my kids are teenagers, they have made the decision to live with their mom full-time. It's okay. It makes their lives easier. Packing and shuttling to my house…
Going Meta: Divorce, Depression, and Befriending Sadness
I am a feeling-driven person. My moods can drive ecstatic highs of creativity and pull me into lows of lethargy and inertia. There's no amount of lamenting that's going to…
Back to the Beginning: Co-Parenting with Serenity
Co-parenting is about accepting the other person for who they are, exactly as they are, and holding them in the best light you can. As we walk through our individual…
Little Ghosts Still Flutter My Heart: a Depression Story
The depression was a killer. (As depression is actually a killer.) But in my case, it was almost too hard to manage. Somehow, I managed. My fiance said during one…
Followed by the Black Dog (of depression)
He came out of nowhere with a grin and a wild look in his brown eyes. The black dog began following me this morning on my walk. It was as…
