The Narcissistic Father and Divorced Moms
Let's do this TOGETHER. It's much easier if we're on the side of our kids and not against one another.
Let's do this TOGETHER. It's much easier if we're on the side of our kids and not against one another.
For the last years of his life, my buddy will do whatever he does as an old dog. I will watch him zigzagging around the back yard and try to remain happy for him rather than sad for him. I will love on him as much as I can. And I'll be aware of how my emotional attachments and complaints are mine alone. He's a dog.
Dads are equal parents. Some dads are deadbeat dads. Some moms are deadbeat moms. Some parents are assholes. Let's not be assholes to each other.
As our kids grow up, our past transgressions and lies will come back to haunt us. I don't think I've lied to them, other than the agreed upon lie (giving my wife the all-important cover) that the divorce was a mutual decision. It was not.
Make things a little bit easier, by being kind and considerate to the other parent in your kids' lives. Love your kids enough to leave your ex in peace.
When divorce is amicable there's a chance for equal parenting. When a divorce starts with Dads getting 30% of the time and 100% of the expenses there is little incentive for moms to be fair.
It's as if Fox News got in the business of divorce, marriage, and relationship advice. You'd better check your sources.
Marriage and parenting start at 50/50. Divorce should start at 50/50 without child support, and negotiate from there.