The goal is never to blame the other person for the breakup, even if they were the reason you are breaking up. Always take your responsibility for the miss. And make it about the chemistry, the mix, the overall relationship and not about them or their poor behavior. Remember, you are leaving the relationship, not trying to teach them a lesson or educate them.
As I learn more about my personal investment in threads, and my reluctance to let go of an elevated connection, I am better able to manage my own interactions, my own energy, and my own decisive disconnection of a golden thread.
I can have many women friends and not seek "relationships" with any of them.
We still have an occasional text, but it's been radio silence. And I am moving along, working to establish a new WE.
What I've noticed about myself and my multiple attempts at finding a lasting, evolving, and ecstatic relationship is that each element is important.
As I pause to review my last fourteen years as a single dad I am not in a hurry to begin a new summit attempt with a new person.
Back to the bare walls and rebuilding from nothing. Back to the feelings of being booted from my former "happy life" as a dad and husband, and into some unknown, stripped bare, emotional roller coaster of the last 8 years of my life.
I still love you. I miss you. And, most of all, I wish you well. I'll leave my warm fuzzies for someone else.