The Displaced Dad: How the Typical Divorce Is Killing Dads

Many men get tossed into the deadbeat dad category by their wives who are looking to score the package, regardless of the dad's parenting skills, their loving availability for their kids, and often discounting the dads even if they are the ones who hold down the emotional and logistical side of the household.

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Why Some Fathers Give Up After Divorce

Yes, kids are expensive, but they should be equally shared as an expense and as a joy. This 70/30 split is bullshit. It's demeaning to fathers. And it's based on a parenting concept from the 50's. Sure it makes it easier on the courts if everyone just goes with the plan. But don't. If you want the time with your kids, fight for it.

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Dear Custodial Parent: We Are All Still Together After Divorce

I wish she had taken me or the kids into consideration before going full-force for the custodial divorce deal. It was not good for any of us, her included.

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Always Being the Better Man: Dads In Divorce Leading with Love

And when things don't go in our favor, even when we are not given 50/50 parenting, it is still our responsibility as men, to lead from a position of love and strength.

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The First Holiday Season As a Single Dad: Stepping Into the Void

How do you reconcile being removed from the typical family Christmas? How do you deal with the 22 days a month that you have little or no contact with your children? How do you afford ANY Christmas presents when you're struggling to buy gas?

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The War on Divorcing Fathers: Deadbeat Dad Accusations Are Abusive

My ex-wife knows I am paying and will continue to pay my child support until my daughter turns 18. She wants to keep me under the thumb of the "enforcement" of Title IV-D because hurting me gives her pleasure.

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Her Aspirational Divorce: Seeking a Better Life for Your Kids

I cannot excuse my then-wife for taking the easy way out. Divorce is never easy. I cannot forgive my wife for snickering in the counselor's office when I asked for a 50/50 parenting schedule and showed my research and several calendar options. I cannot forgive her for making such a selfish decision that went against everything we agreed to in our marriage.

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