I hope for her, and for our mutual friends, that she continues to find relief and release in her future life, without me. And I suppose, I'll allow the burning bridge between us to flare brightly into the night, without alarm or rescue efforts. It is enough to have said my goodbye with love.
Whatever the motivation or past, we are now a family in divorce. We have commitments and connections that will never cease between all of us. And in my attempts to heal myself I hope to continue to be a positive influence on my kids and ex's lives. We're in this together. Let's evolve to a higher discussion.
I believe that living with anger, creates an angry life. Showing the angry life to your kids is not the lesson you'd prefer to give them. Discharge your anger however you need to do it, but quit firing poison darts at your co-parent. You are liable to hit one of your kids instead.
Maybe this is what women feel all the time. The men are sizing them up as they might size up a meal. I'm hungry, but I'm interested in a woman who stays YES first. THEN I will show her my Tiger.
All I needed was someone to stand in for me, advocate for me, and let me be the sick patient. I could focus on my pain, breathing deeply, and the questions the doctors were asking me. But she was the general-in-charge, and that felt amazing. Mainly, though, she just held my hand and said she loved me.
Parenting is a journey best shared by both partners. I am strong enough to engage with love and caring and the knowledge, that somehow she believed leaving me out of the loop was the best option for my son.
I try to be positive. This entire blog is about being positive, about turning negative interactions around and learning from them, transmuting them into something healthy, loving, and beneficial for…
Parenting is not easy. Single-parenting is even more complex, but reaching out and getting the connection with one of your children is one of the most rewarding activities you can invest in. So make it happen. And ask again and again until it does.