The Whole Parent

My Miss Fortune – Taking Inventory of my First Two Marriages

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:July 8, 2018
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Depression Divorce Love Married Life Money Parenting Self-care Single-Dad

Every day she doesn't release me from the AG's supervision is a day that I wake up and have to forgive her for acting and continuing to act on her fear.

Sex, Love, and Relationships: Dating Is A Bit Like Space Travel

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:July 7, 2018
Post category:Dating Depression Love Relationships Self-care Sex Single-Dad

So as I speed away from another "potential" I am trying to be aware of the great things I learned. And most of all, I hope to make use of the momentum her gravity and ultimate slingshot has provided for the path ahead.

Sexy Sex and the Other Two Kinds of Romantic Relationships

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:July 7, 2018
Post category:Dating Divorce Health and Fitness Married Life Relationships Self-care Sex Single-Dad

Long-term monogamy takes work. It takes a willingness in both partners to work on keeping things open, honest, and a bit spicy. When one partner begins to check-out or begins denying the flow between you, there is very little a solo-enthusiast can do to reconnect the lust. Perhaps it is like a faucet. At some point, she was turned off by me.

Divorce Lessons: It’s the Quiet Time, the Alone Time, the Empty Spaces

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:July 7, 2018
Post category:Divorce humans of divorce Love Married Life Parenting Self-care Sex Single-Dad

Needless to say, it wasn't the sex that caused us to get a divorce, but the loss of sexual connection sure indicated that something had gotten out of balance. Unfortunately, I was never able to regain that balance with my then-wife. And as the emotional aspects of our relationship got more complicated, the sex simply dried up completely.

The Divorce Part You’ll Never Understand: Living Within the Compromise

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:July 7, 2018
Post category:burn Co-Parenting Divorce Joy Parenting Relationships Self-care Single-Dad

So while I unload and vent on this site from time to time, know that my intentions towards my kids are pure and my relationship between myself and my ex-wife may be in the "it's complicated" setting for now, but we're working on it.

Here and Now: Touching Objects of Desire

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:July 7, 2018
Post category:Dating Relationships Self-care Sex Single-Dad

And she's cute as a button. Cute. Fresh. Easy. And she's asking me to kiss her. Um. Except in broad daylight. "It's gonna have to be a night date," she said, half-seriously. She had also let me know after the txt above that we would NOT be kissing in a restaurant or any other type of PDA.

DATING METAPHOR: Two Tails Are Wagging or Neither Tail Is Wagging

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:July 7, 2018
Post category:Dating Divorce humans of divorce Joy Love relationship building Relationships Self-care Sex Single-Dad

Two dogs meet in the park a. either both tails are wagging b. only one tail is wagging c. neither tail is wagging

Child Support Should Be Shared, Not Enforced: Gratitude Now

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:July 7, 2018
Post category:burn Co-Parenting Divorce Money Parenting Self-care Single-Dad

Divorce should start at 50/50. Shared custody. Shared bills. Shared hardships if one or more of the parents lose a job. Let the individual couples negotiate in Texas from that position, rather than the inequitable position we are presented with today.