Reframing Sex and Intimacy: Men & Women Differ In Desire

The concept of the hungry and sexually frustrated male is convenient, but not all that helpful in navigating or negotiating an equitable balance in touch and intimacy, both sexual and non-sexual.

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Re-learning to Love In the Present Moment: Love’s Intoxication

I am learning better how to tap into the power of feelings and how they can motivate me towards doing better, being better. But I'm also too aware of how my feelings can lead me down dark and lonely paths. I am constantly trying to find the balanced walk down the middle.

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Wayfinding In Love: Listening to What Is Emerging In Your Relationship

Let's be clear with each other about what we want, what we fantasize about, and what we do not want. Only with that data can we make better and more informed decisions about where to go in our partnership.

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What I Learned About Sex: It’s Almost All In Your Mind

Know what does it for you and being able to show or tell your partner is a key ingredient for evolved sex. As we can let go of traditional SEX as the goal and open up to the full range of erotic experiences, we can expand our pleasure and our sexual vocabularies.

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Understanding My Co-parent’s Malfunction: My Easy Indifference

Our kids are doing fine, in spite of your brutally selfish and vindictive actions. I release you and your partner to live in peace with an easy indifference.

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Pointing Your Arrow Towards Happiness: Lessons In Self-Awareness

Giving others (friends, lovers, business associates) the opportunity to JOIN in the conversation is a good thing. I need to do more listening and less talking.

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