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Preparing to Disembark: Liftoff from Tranquillity Base

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:January 31, 2015
Post category:Co-Parenting deep space divorce saga Divorce humans of divorce Self-care Single-Dad

We have all done a lot of prep work to get here. There is no sadness at what we are leaving behind, even as the new ship is bare walls and survival systems only, at this point.

The Deep Space Divorce Saga

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:January 25, 2015
Post category:Divorce humans of divorce Married Life Parenting Self-care Single-Dad

So I'm a little rocket ship. And when I'm well-fueled, well-balanced, and have a good map in front of me, all systems are go, green lights across the board, look out, cause here we go.

The Crew Must Survive (The Deep Space Divorce Saga Continues)

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:January 25, 2015
Post category:Co-Parenting deep space divorce saga Depression Divorce humans of divorce Parenting Self-care Single-Dad

Sitting around that table, telling 15 people I'd just met about how I hoped to make it past 9 am on the next day, was a liberating experience.

Single Parent Moon Landing: Into the Sea of Tranquility

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:January 22, 2015
Post category:Co-Parenting deep space divorce saga Depression Divorce Health and Fitness Money Parenting Self-care Single-Dad

Though I had no map for the road ahead, I did have my own core happiness and strength. And even though the future had suddenly appeared darker and more ominous I responded with laughter. The situation was not funny.

My Little Rocket Ship of Hope and Love (Deep Space Divorce Saga)

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:January 20, 2015
Post category:deep space divorce saga Divorce humans of divorce Parenting Single-Dad

I got rid of about 50% of my things, and sold the spaceship and returned to the "captain without a ship" state that I find myself in right now. I put what was left of my things in storage and moved into my mom's garage. And again, I went back to the drawing board in search of a better map.

Love All Parents: The Single Parent’s Manifesto

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:January 19, 2015
Post category:Co-Parenting Health and Fitness humans of divorce Love Relationships Single-Dad

I wish my co-parent all the joy and love in the world. I can no longer provide any of those things. But I can be a soft cushion when she needs to hit or collapse into something. I resolve not to hit back. But, I won't stand-in for the drama anymore. I will only take my responsibility. I will only pay attention to the business between us as we continue together in co-parenting.

May I Fall In Love With You? (Preparing the Way for the BIG LOVE)

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:January 9, 2015
Post category:Co-Parenting Dating Health and Fitness humans of divorce Joy Love relationship building Relationships Self-care Sex Single-Dad Spirituality

And I can still recall twice in my life, the thrill of that moment when I realized my heart was spinning out of control and there was nothing I'd rather do than be with this other beautiful person. Whew! Only twice? Dang, that's inspiration enough.

Actions (Not Intentions) Will Determine How Long I’m Single

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:January 6, 2015
Post category:Dating Divorce Health and Fitness humans of divorce Joy Love Relationships Self-care Sex Single-Dad

Parenting is a life journey that I've committed myself to. My partner should have the same orientation. And tennis, being my favorite sport, is a passion that if shared, can unlock a lot of positive feelings and shared time together.