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No More Homeless Dads: 50/50 Shared Parenting After Divorce

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:February 5, 2016
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Depression Divorce Health and Fitness humans of divorce Love Money Parenting Relationships Self-care Single-Dad

Dad's are just as important as moms. Even with young kids, the loss of either parent is one of the most painful aspects of divorce.

Hold On! The Information You’ve Been Given About Divorce is Wrong

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:February 2, 2016
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Divorce humans of divorce Married Life Money Parenting Relationships Self-care Single-Dad

While I don't blame my then-wife for "going for it" and asking for everything she wanted: the money, the house, the custody, I don't think she was thinking beyond her interests. And we can all cite studies about mothering and nurturing, but today, just as many modern studies show the dad is of equal importance in bringing up healthy kids.

The Little Oblivion I Seek

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:January 31, 2016
Post category:Depression Drinking Health and Fitness Relationships Self-care Single-Dad Third Glass Series

If drinking is a little like Ambien, I do understand the draw towards daily drinking. It's not for me either, never has been, but daily Ambien, I could see how I might enjoy that if not for the side effects that it kills my hopeful attitude the next day and has me making promises my actually emotional state won't let me fulfill.

A Good Man in a Storm, Even After Divorce

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:January 31, 2016
Post category:Anger Depression Divorce Health and Fitness Married Life Relationships Self-care Single-Dad

It was a reality I could not manage. In the end, it was a reality that should've split us up and did. I am now free to have a relationship with a woman who enjoys life, and who wakes up laughing as I do.

Minimizing The Collateral Damage of Depression and Divorce

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:January 26, 2016
Post category:Co-Parenting Depression Divorce humans of divorce Love Self-care Single-Dad

If I can leverage that into some measure of hopefulness, then I am well along my path of recovery. I don't have to aim for joy when I am activated and functioning properly.

Thinking About Doing It: Depression and Creativity

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:January 20, 2016
Post category:Depression Divorce Self-care Single-Dad

I'm coming out of my illness and beginning to feel my hopefulness again. But I'm not able to climb a quarter-mile hill right out of the gate, my first five minutes on a bike. It takes some time to build up to that. My friend who sold me his used bike said, "Start out in the flats, build up to it."

The Spiritual Quest for Love: Keep Trying, Your Partner Is Waiting

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:October 11, 2015
Post category:Co-Parenting Dating Joy Love relationship building Relationships Self-care Sex Single-Dad Spirituality

The first time my current sweetheart crossed my path I was in no mood or frame of mind for anything beyond my own sad story. When we crossed paths the second time, she was well prepared with my trigger words and actions. And I was broadcasting on all channels my desire for a partner to step up and be enveloped in my madness.

10 Things I’ve Learned In the 5 Years Since My Divorce

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:September 26, 2015
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Depression Divorce Drinking Health and Fitness Joy Love Married Life Money Parenting Relationships Self-care Sex Single-Dad

It's all about the kids. If you've still got a beef with your ex you need to get over it. There's no point. You might have disagreements about stuff, but those should be handled with the same intensity as a convenience store clerk.