Big D Energy: How Dad’s Can Do Better in Divorce
How is it possible that you don't care for or support your co-parent? How can that much anger be misdirected at the former love of your life?
Becoming a single dad was one of the most traumatic events of my life. I did not want the divorce, I fought against the divorce, and ultimately I agreed to collaborative divorce and was taken to the cleaners by an ex who decided to go for the “divorce package” rather than honor our 50/50 shared parenting agreement.
How is it possible that you don't care for or support your co-parent? How can that much anger be misdirected at the former love of your life?
Only through learning from past mistakes will you be able to evolve into the dating partner you want to become.
Today is the day. This is the moment. This post signals the last moment of denial. I am in charge of my own thinking, my own mood management, and my own path forward.
Every single blow against me is felt by our children.
Not everything needs to be worked out all the time. And, for the most part, I can trigger unhappy feelings for you, but the deep sadness or anger you feel, is probably not because of me.
By allowing you to experience and process your own distress, without my interference, I am giving you the utmost respect. I am viewing you as whole, strong, and capable. And in my affirmation of you and your inherent ability to be strong and sufficient, I am reaffirming my belief in you.
My motto for dealing with my ex-wife and her anger: Focus on your children. Love your children.
How aware are you of your current state of energy? Your mood? Your momentum and trajectory?