We don't want to be alone, but it's better than spending a lot of time on a partnership that is one-sided. A relationship requires both partners to be equally committed to the journey.
I am excited and terrified about the transformation that will occur when SHE shows up. And yet I am pushing towards her, calling her in, writing love poems to "HER." I can only imagine... And for now, that's all I've got. And these maps, which I will gladly set alight in her flame.
When your partner's actions are AWAY from you rather than TOWARDS you, it is time to go.
We don't need our partners to turn into BLGs too. We need our partners to accept and appreciate our white-hot love and then find their own lover within. Our partners do have to return some of the love. Our partners do have to respond with loving feedback. And if we dial up the chemistry just right...
If the sexual chemistry is not found or established within the first few dates, then I am going to take NO for an answer about the potential of the relationship.
At this moment, I am single. And at this moment, I know that the next woman IS THE ONE. Until she isn't.
The relationship will arrive when you are focused on your own happiness and growth. Get out there and have fun with yourself.
"I wake up each morning with an 'oh fuck' on my lips. Sometimes I even say it out loud several times as I'm trying to get motivated to make coffee and start the day." Breaking up and depression.