Self-care Archives

Letting Go of Those We Love

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:August 23, 2018
Post category:Depression Divorce Health and Fitness Joy Love mindfulness Relationships Self-care Spirituality

Love deeply. Live deeply. And when you lose someone, go on loving as deeply as you can. In the case of my brother, I will go on loving him as he becomes a spirit.

Co-Parenting Problems and Healing Strategies

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:August 20, 2018
Post category:Anger burn Co-Parenting Dating Depression Divorce Health and Fitness Joy Love Parenting Relationships Self-care Single-Dad

Always treat your co-parent with respect and compassion. A metaphor for co-parenting might be, "Treat them as well as you do a convenience store clerk." You want to get in and get out with as little hassle as possible.

Back to the Beginning: Co-Parenting with Serenity

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:August 19, 2018
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Divorce humans of divorce Money Parenting Relationships Self-care Single-Dad

Co-parenting is about accepting the other person for who they are, exactly as they are, and holding them in the best light you can.

The Good Dad’s Divorce: Being Asked to Leave Everything Behind

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:August 5, 2018
Post category:Co-Parenting Depression Divorce Love Married Life Money Parenting Self-care Single-Dad

We need our dads to show up for us, as well as our moms. And when the dad is removed from a family, with the SPO, the balance is shifted dramatically in favor of the "mom as the emotional center" of everyone's lives.

Are We All Hungry Tigers? Passionate? Predatory?

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:August 2, 2018
Post category:Dating Health and Fitness Joy Love Relationships Self-care Sex Single-Dad

Here's a quick test you can run at home. While walking around today, your city, your grocery store, your public streets, notice your attraction to other animals, other animals of…

Voyeurism, Sadness, and Traveling Alone: a Tincture of Depression

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:August 1, 2018
Post category:Dating Depression Health and Fitness Joy Love Relationships Self-care Sex Single-Dad Spirituality

It's amazing to be away from your lover and feel the feelings of longing and pain. Remembering what it was like when we were not in a relationship. I crave being in a relationship. And today, I am lucky. I am loved and in a loving relationship.

Little Ghosts Still Flutter My Heart: a Depression Story

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:July 25, 2018
Post category:Co-Parenting Depression Divorce Health and Fitness humans of divorce Parenting Self-care Single-Dad Spirituality

For me, depression is a lot about getting afraid and then continuing to listen to the fear more than the present. I've used some mantras during my walks that have seemed to push me up the hills with more energy and joy. "Further, Stronger, Healthier, and Happier."

Grief is Underneath: A Divorce Fable

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:July 20, 2018
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Depression Divorce Love Married Life Money Parenting Relationships Self-care Single-Dad

I sat with my anger long enough, until she told me her real name grief. Underneath that rage at me, must be sadness. I feel it when I touch the anger inside myself about how I've been treated since the divorce. I'm sad because we were so close. I'm sad because we still share two wonderful children that are affected by such rage and unresolved anger.