Relationships take a lot of work. Dating, online dating, and courtship all have one goal, to give us a Relationship to thrive in. It is hard to find a healthy, attractive, and willing partner. When you do, what happens next is the most important part. I work on relationship-building as a skill set. How can I be a better partner? How can I say with this person for life?

Single Dad Is Getting Too Close to the Sun: Managing My Moods

My most recent bouts of depression were triggered by my divorce, but it's a lifelong journey for me. I can drink. I can stop drinking. But I'm not sure how good I am at getting sad and not turning on the sadness fire hose at the first sign of things going off.

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Serenity with my Co-parent Begins and Ends with Me

The outcome is not up to me. I am responsible for my actions. I am responsible for nailing one of the next three job interviews. I am responsible for explaining to the potential employer that contrary to my credit report, I am NOT A DEADBEAT DAD.

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How Much Sex Will I Have as I Get Older: A Sexual Study of Men and Women

Sex with someone, anyone, is not very much more fulfilling than porn and my own left hand. So I don't look for this type of sexual gratification as an initial part of my dating process. And I'm pretty clear on my dating profiles that I'm not looking to hook up or jump in the sack.

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Why Did You Get Back Together? Lessons In Love and Being Loved

When contemplating a long-term relationship, unaddressed issues will not get fixed on their own. They will fester until one partner breaks either with anger or acting out. And if the issue has been around for more than 6-months you owe it to yourself and your partner to address it head-on.

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What a Single Father Wants in the Next Relationship, Year 3!

As you look to build the long term relationship with a spouse, remember your kids are important, and in some ways, they are priority number one, but that will change over time. As you become less of a priority in their lives, as they move on to college and their own lives, you will be left with what's next.

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