relationship building Archives

The Fragility of Intimacy: And Our Tiny Signals for Love

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:February 4, 2024
Post category:Dating mindfulness relationship building Relationships self-awareness Sex

As a long-term couple, we can align on our intentions and our schedules more easily than in an early or casual relationship.

ME Cycles and Wondermints: Why Is Self-Care So Difficult?

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:January 5, 2024
Post category:Co-Parenting Health and Fitness Joy Love mindfulness Parenting relationship building Relationships Self-care Spirituality

The signal you are giving to your body and soul, is this, "I am worthy of being taken care of. I still love everyone else, but I need to put a few ME CYCLES in the mix.

Maybe the Love We Seek Is Our Own

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:January 4, 2024
Post category:Dating Depression Health and Fitness Joy Love mindfulness relationship building Relationships Self-care Sex Single-Dad

Let's evaluate each potential partnership in terms of emotional maturity and availability. Let's do better each time we start a relationship of loving ourselves in a way that says, "I'm the catch."

Read This If Nobody Texted You “Good Morning Sunshine” Today

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:November 26, 2023
Post category:Dating Health and Fitness humans of divorce Joy Love relationship building Relationships Self-care Sex Single-Dad Spirituality

The thrill of getting to a second date... Well, don't blow it. Just be cool. Don't lead to fast or too far. Take your signals from your date. Listen intently for emotional intelligence. Are they telling stories about past relationships, or future ideas, or work, or working out?

Pause in the Gap: Trying to Force An Answer Is Not the Way

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:November 7, 2023
Post category:Co-Parenting Dating Love Married Life mindfulness Parenting relationship building Relationships Spirituality

If you can pause and consider the gap when you feel frustrated or impatient, you can tune in to your own feelings more accurately. And if you give your partner the opportunity to fill the gap you may learn something you didn't know, and something you couldn't have learned had you continued to be a gap crasher.

Pura Vida: Finding and Sharing Our Eternal Optimism

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:November 6, 2023
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Dating Depression Divorce Health and Fitness humans of divorce Joy Love mindfulness Money relationship building Relationships Self-care Single-Dad Spirituality

In this sacred life, we have a limited number of hours in our day. The same number of hours as every other being in our space-time continuum. By checking in with your intentions and actions on a regular basis you can begin adjusting your life towards the life you want.

Getting Good At Blameless Breakups: Online Dating Challenges

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:October 31, 2023
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Dating Depression Divorce Health and Fitness humans of divorce Love mindfulness Parenting relationship building Relationships Self-care Sex Single-Dad Spirituality

The goal is never to blame the other person for the breakup, even if they were the reason you are breaking up. Always take your responsibility for the miss. And make it about the chemistry, the mix, the overall relationship and not about them or their poor behavior. Remember, you are leaving the relationship, not trying to teach them a lesson or educate them.