Inviting the Dinosaur In: Weaponizing Child Support

I have been employed or working under contract for most of the time since the divorce. And today I'm gearing up to start a new job so that I can get some money, but more importantly so that my kids will get some money. And yes, the dinosaur will be fed and happy in the next month.

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Your Relationship Wingman/Coach Has Arrived: 9 Wingman Skills

My work is to help women and single moms get strong, healthy, and confident enough to design the relationship of their dreams. It's not always easy. And, we know there are no shortcuts to doing the work on yourself that will put you in the right mindset to attract a kickass partner.

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Dear Custodial Parent: We Are All Still Together After Divorce

I wish she had taken me or the kids into consideration before going full-force for the custodial divorce deal. It was not good for any of us, her included.

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A Message from My Higher Power – The Universe: Jump Off!

Are you moving the meta-goals along the path towards done? Are you putting non-important items on your to-do list rather than deleting or delegating them?

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Dating a Single Dad and Learning to Love His Kids

Dating a single parent can be a lot like struggling with a toddler. They punch you in the eye, spill juice in your bed, and say, "I love you SOOO much."

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A Zen Retake on Love: Attachment is the Root of All Suffering

Zen often offers lovely koans that make us feel good for a moment, enlightened for a nanosecond, and then drops us back into the awareness that "oh, it's a FB…

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My Bandwidth for Bullsh*t Is Being Actively Restricted

Release the relationships that are not meeting your basic conditions of satisfaction. And nourish and build relationships that build warm and fuzzy connections.

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