If you're going to have kids, I think both parents should agree to co-parent after divorce in the same manner that they agreed to co-parent as partners even before they have children.
I'm not perfect. I don't have the answer to this question of how to be happy all the time. But I am learning to see my emotions, my feelings, as something that are a part of me, but are not all of me. That's my meta-view.
I am sold on lifetime partnerships, done one at a time. When they fail, they fail, but not for my own valiant efforts. Let's be together and explore how we can continue to romance, the care and kindness.
Relationships are fun. And now that we have our kids and our independence, we can be more intentional and clear about what we want in our next relationship. It doesn't have to be about marriage, but can be more about learning to love and feel loved again.
Our kids are doing fine, in spite of your brutally selfish and vindictive actions. I release you and your partner to live in peace with an easy indifference.
Love can heal your soul. Love can rip your soul apart. It is up to us to put our hearts back together and try again. If you learn each time you fail at love, you can get closer to finding and building a sustainable and loving relationship.
We don't want to be alone, but it's better than spending a lot of time on a partnership that is one-sided. A relationship requires both partners to be equally committed to the journey.
When your partner's actions are AWAY from you rather than TOWARDS you, it is time to go.