Love is the core skill and core need we all have. Many of us grew up in homes where love was conditional. If you behave this way I will love you. If you go against my wishes, I will exclude you from my love. This is not how love works. Love is universal energy, either you’re tapped into it and give it freely, or you are lacking in love.

The Four Laws of Love: Finding & Building Lasting Relationships

That's where love lives: in finding, holding, and building the flame of love in our hearts and in our partner's hearts every day of our lives together.

Continue ReadingThe Four Laws of Love: Finding & Building Lasting Relationships

Love Is Bigger Than Anything In Its Way: Optimism and Hope Carry Us

People will do what they want to do. Love will not push a partner into doing something they don't want to do. That's not love, that's codependency.

Continue ReadingLove Is Bigger Than Anything In Its Way: Optimism and Hope Carry Us

Commitment and Fear: Closing the Available Exits to Find Your Edge

We stand alone is a relationship. But in a relationship, we also stand beside a spiritual partner, teacher, lover. In a relationship, we can transcend our isolation and truly feel loved.

Continue ReadingCommitment and Fear: Closing the Available Exits to Find Your Edge

An Intentional First Date Starts with a Kiss: Episode 7 of Love on the Air

"Taking a year to really work on me, and be happy with me..." As Richard rebuilt a house in the Zilker area of Austin, Texas, he was aware of how the house was a metaphor of his self-recovery process. "I worked on the entryway of me. And then I had to work on the inside. I need to open up space, and make space for somebody."

Continue ReadingAn Intentional First Date Starts with a Kiss: Episode 7 of Love on the Air

Episode 4: “Something Is Emerging.” A Loving Conversation with Mark Greene

Come listen to an interesting conversation about masculinity, about relationships, about relationship capacity and emotional growth. Our conversation follows Mark from his experience as a man in a failing marriage, through his self-awareness process, and finally his homecoming in a long-term healthy relationship. We're going to talk about a lot of things, but at the heart is how we find and co-create a relationship with a partner. 

Continue ReadingEpisode 4: “Something Is Emerging.” A Loving Conversation with Mark Greene

The Soft Return: How *Repair* Works in Relationships

If I believe in a higher plan, if I want to navigate with star maps and not treasure maps, then I can be IN LOVE and AT PEACE even in this painful pause. The pain has a lesson for me. I may learn something new every morning and every evening. I am learning.

Continue ReadingThe Soft Return: How *Repair* Works in Relationships

Countdown to Ecstasy: I Know You Want Me To Be Happy

The last two relationships, as painful as the endings were, and as devastating as the loneliness was as I confronted being alone again, both taught me valuable lessons. And this is not a silver lining strategy or rationalization.

Continue ReadingCountdown to Ecstasy: I Know You Want Me To Be Happy