The Whole Parent

Listening To Yourself About Craving, Loneliness, Longing

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:May 12, 2022
Post category:Dating Relationships self-awareness

And then I did something a bit different: I paid attention to how each of my options felt. I noticed I was not really in need of ice cream. I didn't need anything sweet.

The Beautiful Life/Dating Coach’s Dilemma: Our Reality vs Theirs

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:May 11, 2022
Post category:Dating humans of divorce Relationships self-awareness

Love is a journey. Love is not a soul mate who sweeps you off your feet. Love is a bit more like beauty and the beast. We've got flaws, we've got inner dragons, we've got issues, and we STILL LOVE THE OTHER PERSON.

Defining 5 Love Skills: Moving the Love Languages Into Action

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:May 11, 2022
Post category:Dating Joy Love Married Life relationship building Relationships Self-care

I do rely on Love Languages a lot, but I think we need more than that. We need action and clear commitments to fulfill with our partners. We need to give them the space to miss us. The space to get into their own inner dialogue about dreams and projects. We need to feel our own isolation and how much more vibrant we feel when we are together.

This Very Moment… This Is It… Stop… Smell the Roses… Give Thanks.

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:May 10, 2022
Post category:Depression Drinking Health and Fitness humans of divorce Joy Love mindfulness Money relationship building Relationships self-awareness Self-care Single-Dad Spirituality

Stay in alignment with your goal. Make sure your goal is aligned with your purpose. And then notice when things are going right for you.

A Golden Thread Between Lovers: How Do We Disconnect?

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:May 8, 2022
Post category:Dating Divorce humans of divorce Joy Love mindfulness relationship building Relationships Self-care

As I learn more about my personal investment in threads, and my reluctance to let go of an elevated connection, I am better able to manage my own interactions, my own energy, and my own decisive disconnection of a golden thread.

How Do You Suffer the Fools and Jerks in Your Life?

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:April 28, 2022
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Depression Divorce Drinking Health and Fitness humans of divorce Married Life mindfulness Money Parenting relationship building Relationships self-awareness Self-care Single-Dad Spirituality

She still cannot see how planting discontent on my kids towards me is hurting them more than it's hurting us. She is actively damaging her own relationship with her kids over MONEY.

End of Divorce: Kids Out of House But Ex-Wife Still Playing Games

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:April 26, 2022
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Depression Divorce humans of divorce Married Life Money Parenting Self-care Single-Dad Spirituality

Today, nearly a year later, I am still a deadbeat dad on the record. Despite several calls to the AG's office and several agreements to resolve and close the child support account, I am still in arrears by $1.39.

Universe Says: FULL STOP

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:April 26, 2022
Post category:Anger Depression Divorce Health and Fitness mindfulness Parenting Self-care Spirituality

It's been the most intense and transformative month of my young 55-year-old life. I felt at times like my skin was being burnt away by the velocity of the change underway. The pace of change, conflict, resolution, conflict, opportunity, and so on, was exhausting. I stopped drinking coffee because I didn't need any stimulants. I adjusted my psyche meds to reduce activation.