Relationships take a lot of work. Dating, online dating, and courtship all have one goal, to give us a Relationship to thrive in. It is hard to find a healthy, attractive, and willing partner. When you do, what happens next is the most important part. I work on relationship-building as a skill set. How can I be a better partner? How can I say with this person for life?

Here I Go Again: Wait! Hold Up! Let’s Reassess the Situation

Other than the feelings of sadness and loss, the job actually has very little impact on my livelihood or future plans. And, when this news was softly delivered by a "less than awesome young manager" I understood this as the universe giving me the nudge out of the temporary holding pattern that this job actually represented. Still, I'm a little scared.

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“Sex, Dear?” Yes, Please! When Desire Levels Don’t Match

Here's the truth: I can't make you happier. I can't give you energy at the end of your work week or workday. I can't feel sensual when the feedback from you is "tired, overwhelmed, frustrated."

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How to Love Someone Who Is Struggling: Relationship Building Skills

When they see your smiling face and open arms as they emerge from the dark place, they will be grateful for your patience, loving-kindness, and remote support. And you will be stronger and healthier as you have stood alone and agreed to love them even in their difficult times.

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Still Haven’t Found What I’m Looking For: Dating 2.0

I am seeking a twin flame who is an additive to my already bright fire. There might be danger in combining our energies and desires. But only inside the flame of a BIG LOVE can we burn away the old baggage of our past and make changes and commitments to grow together as lifetime lovers.

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